How do you provide constructive feedback when your inner voice is shouting ‘yes, it looks awful!’
Whether you’re a manager, a client, a parent or friend we’ve all been there when we are asked….. ‘How did I do?…’ or ‘What do you think….’. But how comfortable do you really feel about giving feedback? When the person has done a great job or looks great in that meringue wedding dress, it’s a joy to feedback but when it’s a disaster, it’s not so easy.
When we get it right, feedback can provide invaluable insight, here is my guidance on helping you deliver feedback with a constructive purpose.
Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
Networking – just the word used to make me come out in a sweat and a dark cloud would descend. Don’t get me wrong I’m not an introvert, and I can talk (even in my sleep!) I have presented in front of 500 people before but for some reason, the thought of having to engage and force people to speak to me fills me with dread. I would do anything to avoid it, even scheduling a dentist appointment and when I do find myself attending I would arrive right at the last minute, decide it was necessary to check out the toilets several times over and leave early with some lame excuse.
Now I’m not saying it’s my idea of a perfect day, but I’ve put my big girl pants on and can say I am getting more comfortable with this networking thing and in fact I now average about 2 networking opportunities a month and instead of it being outside my comfort zone it’s now on the peripheral!
So what’s changed I hear you say…… I’ve decided to think differently about it and here is how.
Keeping up with the Joneses or should that be the Kardashians!
Only today I found myself looking at a friend’s Facebook post and thought, why can’t my stomach look like hers! Why do we feel the need to continual compare with other people and with the explosion of social media there is, even more, comparison material. What’s really going on in our heads when we compare ourselves to others?