Is your lack of self confidence holding you back?
When people ask me what I do and start talking to me about career coaching and helping people find a job they love, I often hear the response ‘I’d love to do something different but I can’t do anything else.’ Inside I am screaming YES you can.
Maybe you are like me. I used to think that I wasn’t brave enough to work for myself, that I didn’t have the skills needed to promote my business and make sales and therefore being a business owner was not for me. The world entrepreneur I associated with creative people who were filled with bright ideas. They were brave and willing to take risks. I would think of inventors and Dragon’s Den and I would dismiss the idea as I just didn’t associate these traits with me. However, what I was doing was getting in my own way. I was letting my low self-esteem and confidence hold me back.
Are you staying put in your job as you have no clue what else to do?
This was me! I can remember clearly thinking that as I didn’t have any idea I would stay where I was until I had clarity, as this was the sensible thing to do. I was there for 10 years! In this blog, I share my own personal career journey with the hope that it helps you fast track yours.
5 common mistakes people make when searching for their next career adventure.
You’ve had it, that end of year performance review really did not recognise your contribution, that salary increase was pathetic… do they think you work for the love of it? They just keep throwing more and more at you and nothing seems to drop off the list of responsibilities. It’s same the old thing, do more with fewer people and resources.
You’re considering your options and the time is now, you have had enough, surely there has to be something out there. I’m here to tell you that there absolutely is and to give you a head start by sharing some common career journey mistakes that I and numerous of my clients made before coming to see me.
Why are we not comfortable putting ourselves out there?
When you hear the word vulnerable what does it conjure up for you? Do you think weak, pathetic, exposed or do you think confident, courageous, willingness to be yourself? Unfortunately, I think we have over time been socialized to automatically think about it in a negative context. That by telling someone what you are worried about, by sharing a concern you are showing the world your faults, your weaknesses.
Are You Procrastinating Due To Fear?
For the last 12 months, I had been putting off shooting videos for my business. I kept telling myself “next month, do it next month” and then another couple of months would have passed. Or I would find something else in my business to priorities and there was even a time when I told myself not now your highlights need doing and you have a spot coming up on your face! There was always a reason not to. Then I realised what I was doing, I was procrastinating. When we find ourselves procrastinating it will tend to be due to either not knowing how to do something or because of a fear. I was scared, the fear was kicking in and I saw that what I needed was to coach myself out of this situation.
Here are the 3 steps I took to overcome my fear and you can adapt these to any situation when your fears are getting in the way of you taking action.
If I Move Organisation Will That Be Enough?
Have you found yourself asking ‘is it the Company or is it me?’ You are not alone! Here are two ideas to help you figure it out.
Before setting up my own coaching business I worked in Human Resources (HR) for a large global bank. There had been a number of times when I had started to think that maybe it was time to move on as I wasn’t enjoying the job anymore. But then I would move to a different area which would excite me as it brought fresh challenges and new relationships and all would be good for a year or two. My last stint was working overseas experiencing the expat lifestyle. The excitement of creating a new life in a different country was thrilling but when the honeymoon ended and the realisation that this was the new normal kicked in I finally admitted to myself that I had fallen out of love with HR.
What Does It Take To Leap Into That New Career?
Here are 4 qualities I believe are essential to making that career transition - they may surprise you!
Why do we focus on the one negative feedback comment and miss the 20 great things!
Does this sound familiar? You’ve just had your end of year review. You spent the last hour with your manager reviewing your progress. You were really pleased with your performance over the last year and have made some great headway in your work. You were expecting this to be a session full of praise, but no she told you, you need to work on your relationships with a particular client who is notorious for being difficult. You’re fuming.
Your house is on the market and you happened to be in when some potential buyers came to view your property, they were gushing over the décor and you felt a real sense of pride. That was until you overheard them talking about the bathroom. Apparently the bright pink you have on the wall looks like a colour you would find in a brothel. How dare they!
Why is it that we focus on the one negative comment amongst the plethora of positive ones?
How will I know this is the right move?
Sometimes we just have to take that big leap. We can do all our homework, our research our deep soul searching, talk to friends, family the Butcher, the Baker the Candlestick maker but in the end we have to take that leap of faith or be prepared to stay in our status quo in that safe, but boring, unchallenging situation, that job that we hate.
Trying to get certainty in an uncertain world can be a huge issue for those of us who don’t like to take risks or don’t like change or being exposed and showing our vulnerability. Before making that leap we want to know that we are making the right decision and taking the best route on our journey. However, let’s get realistic; we aren’t going to know for certain.
Holiday is not nice it's a necessity!
I found myself scared to take time off for holidays, focusing on how much it would cost in terms of lost earnings. Sound familiar? As we hit the holiday season I have been talking to a number of colleagues and clients and this appears to be a consistent fear faced by those working for themselves. Here is how I’ve got comfortable with it.