Why do we trust an expert but not ourselves?
Why is it that we trust an expert to give us advice but we don’t listen to ourselves, to our own intuition and feelings? I often get asked by potential clients if they work with me will I tell them what career they should do, what job will make them happy, what career will complement their life and add to it. My answer is no I won’t, only you can really figure this out. My job is to show you how; to give you the tools to build your career escape plan and to support you as you wave goodbye to that soul-sucking job and say hello to your new career adventure.
Why you shouldn't focus on skills that you are good at in your career change!
When I see headlines like the ‘Top 5 skills you need to be successful.’ or similar I start to struggle, because if you really want to make a career change that is going to complement your life, is going to enable you to thrive it’s not about developing your skills in 5 it’s about figuring out what skills you have that you like to use and where you may find a career that uses them. It’s about recognizing your individualism and what you want from your life. Who do you want to be in your career? What do you want to have from your career and what do you want it to enable you to do?
Have you fallen out of love with your job? Dating advice for your career.
You are sat having coffee with your friend and they tell you that they are not happy in their current relationship. They don’t feel their boyfriend gets them, they don’t want the same things, what’s important to her is not to him and vice versa. He wants to sit and watch the TV she wants to get outside, he is all about enjoying today she wants to plan for the future. She’s tried talking to him, but nothing seems to change. It’s got to the stage that she is having problems sleeping and chocolate has become her new best friend. In fact, she is feeling miserable and can’t continue in their relationship. What would your advice be to your friend?
Feel Guilty for Wanting More from your Career?
Have you ever chastised yourself for wanting more for your career? Found yourself having that internal dialogue in which you tell yourself to stop being so ungrateful for what you have and trying to convince yourself that the job is a really good deal and to stop moaning? Is it a crime to want more for yourself in your career?
When should I not change jobs?
Is there ever a good time to change companies or move into a different career? Unfortunately, we can’t put other aspects of our life on hold and we can’t foresee what the future is going to bring. We can only act on what is happening right now and if your job is dragging you down, if it’s making you feel miserable, it’s stifling you and impacting your personal life and your health, then the benefits you will reap from taking control of your career and making changes will infiltrate all the other areas of your life.
However, I do recognise that there are a few occasions when it may not be ideal timing and you may want to temporarily hit the pause button before resigning and moving to your new career. I am also not suggesting you resign with no plan or another opportunity lined up, but I do think there are steps you can be taking in the background that will prepare you for when you can let the breaks off and go full throttle. You see with each of these scenarios that there is still action, still reflective work, still discussions to be had (perhaps they may be very secret ones!) enabling you to explore what aspects of a job will work for you, will make you happy, will enable you to perform at your best. Taking action behind the scene will help you feel more positive about your situation and will enable you to see a brighter future.
A Dog is Forever but a Job doesn’t have to be!
When thinking about changing your career we can place huge pressure on ourselves to find that perfect one, a career that we can see ourselves doing for the rest of our working lives, a job that doesn’t really feel as though you are working, that every day you are excited to roll up your selves and start your working day. These feelings can be exacerbated by the fact that we feel as though we have failed once already by not selecting the right career the first time around. You don’t want to avoid repeating the same mistakes and you definitely don’t want to experience these same feelings of despair or unfulfillment that you are trying to escape.
In my own career journey, there were three fundamental shifts I needed to make to enable me to let go of the forever job and move forward.
Thinking of a Career Change? Here are 5 Pitfalls to Avoid.
Having worked with individuals to help them kick start their career change I have identified five main pitfalls that people fall into when they are trying to shift careers. These are all common and easy mistakes trust me at some point I have fallen into each of these in my own journey. If you are contemplating a career change take a moment for yourself, sit down with a cuppa and read this blog, it could save you lots of time, energy and emotional turmoil and most importantly stop you from repeating the same mistakes over and over. Imagine if you still feel like you do in 12 months’ time, in 2 years’ time or even 5 years’ time.
Wave your magic wand and change your career!
If only you could wave a magic wand and know what that next career move looked like and that it would fulfil your needs. In this blog, we talk about the process of making a successful career change.
Whats story are you telling yourself? Its time to admit the truth!
You’ve contemplated what you would include in your resignation letter, maybe you have thought about how you would tell your boss, should you tell them the real reasons or keep it simple? You start to contemplate how much better you would feel and then you… STOP. You come to a grinding halt, the brakes are slammed on and you tell yourself to get back in the real world and to stop dreaming. You need to face reality, this is your life and those dreams are serving you no purpose. Instead, you start to tell yourself all the reasons why you won’t be resigning; you won’t be writing that letter or walking away from your job and you surrender yourself to the fact that things are just the way they are. But do they have to be like this?
This is a cycle I found myself continually faced with, having the same conversations over and over in my head until I really acknowledge what was happening, I was putting up barriers, reasons why I couldn’t take the leap because I was scared, I was getting in my own way.
To break the cycle and move forward you need to get honest with yourself, understand how you are holding yourself back and admit that actually, you are putting the barriers in place, preventing yourself from escaping.
You have dusted off and reviewed your CV, you’ve updated your LinkedIn profile and you are feeling positive, already you can feel your shoulders relaxing and feel your mood lifting. This weekend you have cleared the diary so you can get down to some serious job searching and online networking. Well done you’ve made the commitment. This is the very first step needed in any career change process. ‘I’m going to do this and I’m serious about it!’ But are you ready to start your job search? Let me ask you a question. Do you know what you want for your future, do you know what you want from a job, and do you know what sort of job will make you thrive?