I Hate My New Job, Is It Too Soon To Leave?
The despair is kicking in. You’ve tried talking to your manager, but to no avail. You’ve shared your concerns with family and friends, but they are encouraging you to stick it out as its probably just teething problems and if not you need to get that magic year on your CV.
But you can’t see it getting any better, in fact, you know deep down that this is not going to work. You feel trapped and the despair is kicking in. You’ve noticed that your confidence and levels of self-esteem are plummeting. The impact is not constrained just to your working life but you’ve found you are struggling to sleep and are snapping at your loved ones. A year just seems too long and you are scared of the impact if you do continue to stick it out.
Does this sound familiar or do you know someone who is in this very situation? Here are my 4 steps to help you start to clear the fog and find your way through.
Am I Having A Mid Life Crisis Or Is It Time To Quit My Job?
I’m going to let you into a secret; this was the exact thought I had in my head when I started to seriously contemplating making changes to my career. The big 40 was looming, a couple of years earlier I had lost my mum and I had started to question what I wanted from life. The path I had envisaged had not materialized for me, I had not met my Mr Perfect, the family I assumed I would have, had not materialised. However, life was generally good; I had a lovely home, a great family and amazing friends. I would travel far and wide a number of times a year and life was very comfortable. But was comfortable enough?
Job or Career? Does it matter?
Is there a difference between a job and a career and does it really matter? I must admit I use both terms, I refer to myself as a career coach, but will use job and career interchangeably. The other day I got asked by a prospective client what is the difference and this got me thinking.
I stuck my head in the sand for 10 years!
It can take a lot to finally admit that you need to take action, to pull your head out of the sand and realise that life is slipping away or to acknowledge that actually no one else but you can bring about the changes you are seeking. Whether it’s a change in your career, a relationship issue or something else, ignoring the problem can seem the easier option. Having to have an honest conversation with ourselves and make some difficult choices can seem too much so we do nothing. Until one day you have a wakeup call and realise the time for action is now.
My 10 biggest bugbears about career change advice!
When I first started making my own career change a priority, I found a real mix in the quality of advice out there; often I felt it was unrealistic and too simplistic. I would read articles that now I know with hindsight would not help me answer my two burning questions 1) what do I want to do and 2) how do I make it happen.
As I have grown my own career coaching business, I’ve come across a lot of misconceptions about what it takes to make a successful career change and I thought it would be useful to share this with you. It took me 10 years to make my own career change and my aim is to help you make your move with the least risk and as quickly as you can after all life is short and we want to live our happiest life.
Here are my top 10 biggest bugbears to help you make an effective transition to a career that fits you.
Do you know what the biggest obstacle is in making a successful career change?
I will give you a clue….. It’s also the one you have the most influence over…..yes it’s you!
You can blame the economy, we can argue that the timing is not right, use family restriction or geographical location as a reason why but in actual fact you are the biggest obstacle in your own career change. Many of the reasons why we put off taking action are due to internal thoughts that we carry around with us, those fears we focus on, those assumptions and limiting beliefs we hold. But the beauty is that we can absolutely do something about it. When we take a moment to really acknowledge what we are doing and understand the cost it is having on us, then we can start to take action and gain some perspective so that we can right-size it and move forward.
Why do we trust an expert but not ourselves?
Why is it that we trust an expert to give us advice but we don’t listen to ourselves, to our own intuition and feelings? I often get asked by potential clients if they work with me will I tell them what career they should do, what job will make them happy, what career will complement their life and add to it. My answer is no I won’t, only you can really figure this out. My job is to show you how; to give you the tools to build your career escape plan and to support you as you wave goodbye to that soul-sucking job and say hello to your new career adventure.
Why you shouldn't focus on skills that you are good at in your career change!
When I see headlines like the ‘Top 5 skills you need to be successful.’ or similar I start to struggle, because if you really want to make a career change that is going to complement your life, is going to enable you to thrive it’s not about developing your skills in 5 it’s about figuring out what skills you have that you like to use and where you may find a career that uses them. It’s about recognizing your individualism and what you want from your life. Who do you want to be in your career? What do you want to have from your career and what do you want it to enable you to do?
Have you fallen out of love with your job? Dating advice for your career.
You are sat having coffee with your friend and they tell you that they are not happy in their current relationship. They don’t feel their boyfriend gets them, they don’t want the same things, what’s important to her is not to him and vice versa. He wants to sit and watch the TV she wants to get outside, he is all about enjoying today she wants to plan for the future. She’s tried talking to him, but nothing seems to change. It’s got to the stage that she is having problems sleeping and chocolate has become her new best friend. In fact, she is feeling miserable and can’t continue in their relationship. What would your advice be to your friend?
Feel Guilty for Wanting More from your Career?
Have you ever chastised yourself for wanting more for your career? Found yourself having that internal dialogue in which you tell yourself to stop being so ungrateful for what you have and trying to convince yourself that the job is a really good deal and to stop moaning? Is it a crime to want more for yourself in your career?