When will they find out that I don’t know what I’m talking about?
Last week on the Kick Start Your Career Change Mastermind we took a deep dive into the concept of Imposter Syndrome and it got me thinking why haven’t I written about this before in a blog? Is it because it’s something I suffer with and admitting it would make me vulnerable or is that I’m of the generation that you fake it until you make it!
With over 70% of people believed to have experienced Imposter Syndrome at some point and to varying degrees, it’s clear that I am not alone. (J. Sakulku – The Imposter Phenomenon, International Journal of Behavioural Science 6, no. 1, 2011). In fact over the last few years more and more public figures are openly sharing their experience; Tom Hanks, Jodie Foster, Kate Winslet, Cheryl Sandberg, helping us to understand this is a common experience.
What do we mean by Imposter Syndrome? At the heart of the concept is that sufferers of Imposter Syndrome will doubts their skills, talents, and/or accomplishments and have a persistent internalised fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. Any external evidence of their competence they attribute to luck or that they have managed to convince others that they are more capable than they are.
How to get from A to B in a career change.
You have this clear image of your next career move, and as you think about it you feel the excitement bubbling away, and despite trying to manage your expectations and tell yourself to get real, the thought won’t leave you, it’s like a magnet pulling you forward. But let’s face it you still need to pay the bills and keep a roof over your head so how do you make a career shift when there is a temporary or permanent reduction in your income?
In this blog, I am sharing the different routes real clients have taken to make their transition into their ideal career with the aim of inspiring you into action and helping you contemplate which option could work for your unique situation.
How do you create clarity when working in chaos?
Have you found yourself in a job where there seems to be no plan, each member of the team is working on their own agenda, with little consistency or synergy?
Perhaps you’ve gone from working with a manager who was very directive to another who is hands-off.
Or maybe there is an impending change on the horizon that raises questions about what should be your priority right now?
Or maybe a global pandemic has through all plans up in the air!
When ambiguity in our careers is impacting our ability to a) do the job and b) enjoy it, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting showing up each day as we battle through the fog that is work. However, there are actions we can take to improve the situation for ourselves.
Please can I have some more money (your guide to job offer etiquette)
Yes someone wants you! Open the champagne. However, the excitement of being offered a new job can quickly fade when you receive the offer and it doesn’t meet your expectations. Perhaps you start to kick yourself for not talking about this earlier in the process, maybe you start to question are you being realistic, or even wonder if this is right for you.
When is it ok to push back and ask for more? And if so how do you do it to maximise your chance of a better offer while leaving the original offer on the table if nothing else can be done?
6 Questions to Ask Yourself When Considering a Job Offer
Wow! You didn’t think you would actually get the job, but you have, the email is right there in front of you, congratulations you can finally plan your escape.
But do you want it?
Something isn’t sitting quite right… you can’t put your finger on it.
Putting yourself at the centre of your decision, use these 6 questions to really sense check if this job offer is going to fit you and give you what you want and need and avoid being on the verge of saying yes because you are caught in an escapism or obligatory mindset.
Has your career plan gone awol?
‘Kerrie, I want to be the most important person in the room?’ Many years ago I was having a conversation with a colleague about their career, he always seemed to know exactly what he wanted, yet I never felt I had a clear plan. I can remember feeling inadequate, why couldn’t I speak with conviction like him, what was wrong with me? Indecisive; lack of personal insight? Was I wasting time doing something that wasn’t me?
The reality of not feeling valued in your career
“I had worked my socks off, stayed late, sacrificed family weekends so that we could launch on time, within budget and getting the results. Not one person said well done, great job, it was almost as if nothing had happened. I felt deflated like it didn’t matter and wasn’t important. I started to question myself and whether I was doing a good enough job.”
We all have a need to have our contributions recognised and when we feel our input is being overlooked we can start to question whether we are good enough and ultimately whether we belong.
So what can we do if we feel undervalued?
Why being a Jack of all Trades is great grounding for a career change.
Last week within the Kick Start Your Career Change Mastermind there was a general theme amongst a number of the cohorts that they had become ‘Jack of all Trades’ within their careers. Over time they had seen their job grow in remit, taking on many things that were outside their initial responsibilities and this got me thinking and wondering are we all becoming Jacks and how does this impact the career change process?
Can't change career or won't?
Have you be thinking about making a change to your career for a while now? You know you want to do something but you quickly follow it up with why it isn’t feasible for us. However, what if you were to look at it differently and to start to question if these reasons are valid and actually is there something deeper going on?
When should I not change jobs?
Is there ever a good time to change companies or move into a different career? Unfortunately, we can’t put other aspects of our life on hold and we can’t foresee what the future is going to bring. We can only act on what is happening right now and if your job is dragging you down, if it’s making you feel miserable, it’s stifling you and impacting your personal life and your health, then the benefits you will reap from taking control of your career and making changes will infiltrate all the other areas of your life.
However, I do recognise that there are a few occasions when it may not be ideal timing and you may want to temporarily hit the pause button before resigning and moving to your new career. I am also not suggesting you resign with no plan or another opportunity lined up, but I do think there are steps you can be taking in the background that will prepare you for when you can let the breaks off and go full throttle. You see with each of these scenarios that there is still action, still reflective work, still discussions to be had (perhaps they may be very secret ones!) enabling you to explore what aspects of a job will work for you, will make you happy, will enable you to perform at your best. Taking action behind the scene will help you feel more positive about your situation and will enable you to see a brighter future.