You have dusted off and reviewed your CV, you’ve updated your LinkedIn profile and you are feeling positive, already you can feel your shoulders relaxing and feel your mood lifting. This weekend you have cleared the diary so you can get down to some serious job searching and online networking. Well done you’ve made the commitment. This is the very first step needed in any career change process. ‘I’m going to do this and I’m serious about it!’ But are you ready to start your job search? Let me ask you a question. Do you know what you want for your future, do you know what you want from a job, and do you know what sort of job will make you thrive?
What if you can't find your passion?
When people talk about finding a career that they love you often hear the word passion, finding your passion. But what if you can’t find it? There isn’t anything you feel that strongly about and can imagine yourself doing for the rest of your working life.
For a middle-class conservative, risk-averse girl like me, the word passion was a bit out there, a tad extreme! I was putting huge pressure on myself to figure out what I had intense feelings for and I could envisage doing for the rest of my working life. There were two big shifts I needed to make which would enable me to move forward.
Are your career dreams your dirty secret?
Are you harbouring a dirty secret? You have this vision, this burning desire to do something else, something that will make your heart sing, that will give you the life you want, the flexibility you crave, the challenge and emotional connection you need… something different from your job now. But you are holding back from telling people as you are worried about their response? Involving others in your career journey is key to making a successful transition, let me explain why.
For years I had always dismissed the idea of working for myself as I considered that I didn’t have the skills and wasn’t brave enough to take the risk. I had grown up with a successful family business and saw firsthand the demands it can have on your life, but I also appreciated the many benefits it could bring. I am a proud farmer’s daughter, fresh creamy milk on tap, juicy sweetcorn picked straight from the field and a large garden to play with my friends (ok you did have to dodge the cow pats!).
About 15 years ago I started to have some conversations with a friend, who had his own marketing business about whether I should set up on my own as an independent Human Resources (HR) Consultant. Throughout the years we would rehash this conversation and each time it would last no more than 5 minutes before I would shut the idea down as I didn’t think I had the sales skills and couldn’t cope with the insecurity of not having a fixed income.
Reflecting back I can see exactly how I was getting in my own way and actually it was my fears and not my perceived lack of sales skills that was the root cause of my problem.
Is it just the January Blues or is it time to go?
It’s fine it’s just a temporary thing…. I just need to get back into my routine and all will be fine.’ Everybody feels like this in January….don’t they?’
The evenings are dark, temperatures have dropped and the weather forecasters start to mention the word snow. All the excitement of Christmas, the time off, giving yourself permission to eat and drink and be merry seems a distant past.
You seem to be carrying this extra weight around (and I’m not talking those few extra Christmas pounds!) a big black cloud descends whenever thoughts turn to work. Is it a bad patch? Will things get better? Is it just the time of year? We all have times when we struggle to get motivated for work, how do we tell if it’s more than a blip and that its time to go? When is enough, enough?
In your heart, you probably already know the answer to this but maybe you don’t want to admit it as this would mean you would need to do something about it. Instead, you push it to the back of your mind and justify to yourself that the time is not now.
Am I describing you?
When the Christmas cheer has disappeared and the January blues sets in.
I don’t know about you but in previous years when the Christmas parties have ended, the chocolates have all been eaten, my trousers are feeling tighter and the cheer has disappeared I find it hard to get myself motivated. I see all the posts about setting your resolutions, about creating the new you and start to feel pressure because I am not conforming; which if I am not careful will drag me down further. So what do you do when you have lost your New Year, New You Mojo?
Here are my 5 tips to banish those January Blues:
All I Want for Christmas is a New Job!
Dear Father Christmas
I know you are really busy this year and that technically as I am over 18 I don’t qualify for a delivery, but I’ve been working really hard and would be on your ‘nice list’. I would really love it if you could find me a new job, a job that makes me feel like I am making a difference each day, that allows me to grow and show what I have to offer. Ultimately I want a job I enjoy and allows me to thrive. I would really appreciate it if you could find the time.
Good luck with the Christmas deliveries and I hope you enjoy the New Year break.
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Is your lack of self confidence holding you back?
When people ask me what I do and start talking to me about career coaching and helping people find a job they love, I often hear the response ‘I’d love to do something different but I can’t do anything else.’ Inside I am screaming YES you can.
Maybe you are like me. I used to think that I wasn’t brave enough to work for myself, that I didn’t have the skills needed to promote my business and make sales and therefore being a business owner was not for me. The world entrepreneur I associated with creative people who were filled with bright ideas. They were brave and willing to take risks. I would think of inventors and Dragon’s Den and I would dismiss the idea as I just didn’t associate these traits with me. However, what I was doing was getting in my own way. I was letting my low self-esteem and confidence hold me back.
Are you staying put in your job as you have no clue what else to do?
This was me! I can remember clearly thinking that as I didn’t have any idea I would stay where I was until I had clarity, as this was the sensible thing to do. I was there for 10 years! In this blog, I share my own personal career journey with the hope that it helps you fast track yours.
5 common mistakes people make when searching for their next career adventure.
You’ve had it, that end of year performance review really did not recognise your contribution, that salary increase was pathetic… do they think you work for the love of it? They just keep throwing more and more at you and nothing seems to drop off the list of responsibilities. It’s same the old thing, do more with fewer people and resources.
You’re considering your options and the time is now, you have had enough, surely there has to be something out there. I’m here to tell you that there absolutely is and to give you a head start by sharing some common career journey mistakes that I and numerous of my clients made before coming to see me.