Sometimes we just have to take that big leap. We can do all our homework, our research our deep soul searching, talk to friends, family the Butcher, the Baker the Candlestick maker but in the end we have to take that leap of faith or be prepared to stay in our status quo in that safe, but boring, unchallenging situation, that job that we hate.
Trying to get certainty in an uncertain world can be a huge issue for those of us who don’t like to take risks or don’t like change or being exposed and showing our vulnerability. Before making that leap we want to know that we are making the right decision and taking the best route on our journey. However, let’s get realistic; we aren’t going to know for certain.
Let's talk scenarios. It’s like the Whitney Houston song ‘How will I know if he really loves me.’ The only real way you are going to know is to ask, by putting yourself out there and being vulnerable. By investing your time with that special person so that they can demonstrate through their actions. But you have to be prepared to take that leap.
It’s the same with that next career move. You’ve got through the interview process and someone wants you! Congratulations you’ve been offered the job. But then the nagging doubt kicks in, is the grass really greener on the other side? Will I be able to do it? Will I like it there? You can do your research, meet people that you are going to work with, look on glassdoor. But at the end of the day, the only way you will really know if this is right for you is to take the leap and try it.
This is exactly what I had to do when I moved from the corporate world to set up my own business. I always enjoyed coaching leaders and employees that I worked with but how would I know if leaving the safety of my corporate office, my six-figure salary, my paid holidays and private healthcare to be a fulltime coach, would be the right move for me. Particularly, when others thought I was mad!
If we don’t get comfortable living in a world of uncertainty how can we grow and experience all that life has to offer. It stunts us, restrict our growth. Now I’m not saying you should blindly go for every opportunity that comes your way, but at least be open. Here are my suggestions to help you cope with making decisions in an uncertain world.
- Listen to your body! Listen to what is being suggested, let it sit with you and start to notice how your body is responding. Changes to your posture, the feeling in your gut. Do you feel a buzz, are you leaning forward and almost feel your self-expanding or getting lighter. These are all ways your body is telling you to go for it. Conversely, are you shrinking, perhaps rounding the shoulders and feel a pit in your stomach, your body is not in convinced this is right for you. This is your body talking, your instincts.
- How does it align with your life plan? Fast forward, it’s been amazing taking this leap of faith, everything has worked out even better than you anticipated. If this was the scenario how would it help you achieve what you want out of life? What experiences will it give you, what will it enable you to do, how will it impact you financially, emotionally and in terms of your health. This can help you understand if taking the leap is aligned to what you want out of life and worth it.
- Play the ‘so what game.’ This is a personal favourite of mine and really helps me manage the fear when it creeps in. For each fear that your inner voice is telling you, ask the question so what would I do, and then what would you do if that didn't work out.... and then what and so on, until the fear becomes manageable and in your mind you know that you have a plan B, C, D and that you will survive. For example, what if I decided I didn’t like coaching, well I’d go back into the world of HR, but what if I couldn’t get back into your old world. Then I would find an office administration role. Also though this can be very telling because if you are not prepared to do plan B, C or D or whatever the steps are to get back on your feet then you have your answer. This leap is not for you at this time.
And finally….remember its normal to feel scared, however, you don’t need to be alone in working through these difficult decisions, I’m here to help.
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